6 Ways to Tell You're With the Person You Should Marry, According to Science
When you meet the man you should marry, you'll be surprised that there's He makes me feel like I'm the best thing that ever happened to him. A relationship with someone you can see yourself marrying is one you should. You can't meet someone in Hawaii when you're begrudgingly walking circles No, getting married will just show you how many problems you really have. If you've ever met my wife, you know the strategy paid off for me 1, times over. Of course not everyone wants to get married, and no one in a long-term relationship should ever feel pressured to tie the knot. But if you are the marrying kind.
You know, the one that involves walking down the aisle. There's actually a lot of science at play.
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Of course not everyone wants to get married, and no one in a long-term relationship should ever feel pressured to tie the knot. But if you are the marrying kind, here's how you know if you're with the person you should marry. You can rely on your partner when things go wrong.
According to marriage and family therapist Erica Curtis, a relationship is marriage material when a couple is able to cope together, knowing they can rely on each other through the ups and downs of life.
This is in line with a study from the Journal of Marriage and Family which found that couples who have similar fighting styles, particularly constructive and calm communication approaches, have the lowest divorce rates.
A couple who fights well together loves well together.
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You're hooked on your partner's idiosyncrasies. While some people may leverage a partner's quirks as negative qualities in fights, a compatible partner learns to adore your confounding love for marmalade or squeaky, high-pitched laugh.
As Robin Williams' character said in Good Will Hunting, "People call those imperfections, but no, that's the good stuff. Within a week of meeting him, I knew we would get married and I was pretty simultaneously stoked and upset about it.
Because being single is awesome! My husband is wonderful. I never ever want to be without him ever, but there is one thing I had to give up when I married him: When you live alone you can be as selfish as you want and no one cares.
I thought when I was single that I was selfless. I traveled all over the place and helped people with my time. I gave my money to people in need. I was a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on when my friends needed me. I was a good person. But at the end of the day, I got to go home to my own bed, my own space, my own food, my own money.
And I could do whatever I wanted to do with the remainder of my time. I had all the time in the world to watch The Gilmore Girls. If you can discuss your differences without becoming defensive or sarcastic, and you can listen to each other and work together toward a solution, your relationship has an excellent chance.
He accepts who you are. You and your date are unique, special and individual and need to be able to understand each other and accept that you'll perceive things very differently. Even when you and your date see things differently, you should be able to agree to disagree.
Remember, the security and comfort in your relationship will come from where you and your partner are similar, and the excitement and growth in the relationship are generated from your differences.
Different interests, opinions, attitudes and ideas will keep things fresh and alive between you. If your date does not become defensive or threatened by your differences, you can be interesting to each other for a long time. The whole point of dating, as we said before, is to get to know each other. While you both may want to take a little time before disclosing too much, your date should be comfortable talking about him or herself, and it should not be like pulling teeth to find out what you need to know.Stunning in-ring proposals: WWE Top 10, Nov. 27, 2017
He has a life with a job, friends, family relationships and interests. A date who has a full, interesting life you would want to be a part of is more likely to be a healthy, balanced person. He seeks out knowledge. Your date doesn't need to be a member of Mensa or a mathematical genius, but look for enough intelligence that you can respect and admire each other.
There are several kinds of intelligence, from school learning to independent education by reading, working, traveling and life experiences.
An airhead who looks good and may be fun to play with will not keep you interested for long. A date who is not interested in learning and growing intellectually may not be able to keep up over the long haul. His modesty, humility and ego are balanced.
As you learn about this new person you're dating, observe his or her character and personality for signs of a balanced sense of self.